It was around this time in the fall of 2021 and probably about a year after purchasing my first home, that I remember having a conversation with myself about the trajectory of my future. I was contemplating whether to move forward with moving my then gift basket business out of the tiny one room space I had been renting or simply staying the course and remaining in that space. After all, the rent was affordable and I was making a decent profit, so why would I leave? 

I remember saying to myself at that time, “but what if it’s not the right time”.  “What will happen if I move and then fail?”, “What if, what if, what if?” There were sooooo many what ifs!

So, after all that compilation what did I ending up doing? The answer, nothing! I waited for the right time to come, and I remained stuck and stagnant for some period. Ironically, that “right time” ended up taking an additional four months to manifest itself, and what I discovered in my waiting was that my situation hadn’t changed much at all. Moreover, all that waiting never ended up producing was a great deal of unnecessary stress and anxiety, and no great epiphanies. 

That period and that moment of clarity was the catalyst for every other decision I’ve made moving forward in my personal life and in my professional life. I no longer wait for ” the right times” of life because there are no right times, period!

What I discovered is that wars are started, politics change, people pass on, bills collect, and somehow life continues (and in the most profoundly annoying ways possible might I add), but alas, it [life] persists regardless of how we feel about any of it. So, to wait and to remain in an endless cycle of ” when the times rightism’s” is self-defeating and serves no positive purpose in your life. Believe me I have been there, lived it, and got the free tee-shirt.

In fact, and I can’t remember who said it, so I’m paraphrasing here, but what I’ve learned as a business owner and as a leader in life, is that my successes are somewhere at the boundaries of my own fears. If I let my fears take over, I’ll do nothing about my situation or my moving forward in future, and if that happens than I’ll remain in a stagnation of “when it’s rightness” forever. 

Now, I’m not saying that I don’t research my options or develop a plan for my future decisions and endeavors, because I most certainly do. I do, actively take the time I need to gain a better understanding of my options, and I do evaluate my resources, both actual and perceived, and I now make decisions based on data and reasoning, rather than on the limits of my fears.

The fact is, starting a business and making the various career choices I have made has not been a cake walk, but I would have never known what I know now had I not taken a leap of faith and believed more in my own abilities to succeed, than I did in my capacity to fail. 

I mean to be real, I did start a full ass business in the middle of a pandemic, and since then its continued to be a series of life events that have included, me having to change locations 3 times, the changing of jobs, the burying my beloved mother, the nuptials of my daughter to an amazing man, the welcoming of a grandchild, and the introduction of myself reimaged to  my clients and customers; something I was horribly nervous about doing initially and at this point in my life.

So, you see, I did all of this in less than 5 years and somehow, and by the grace of God and through my own passion for success, I am still here! I am still here continuously learning, continuously growing, and continuously evolving. 

My hope, as a coach is to now help others in my sphere of life to do the things they too desire to do and with less fear and greater faith in themselves. 

So, are you ready to take a leap of faith with me? Or are you still feeling content and confident in your ability to wait for the right times of your life? 

If it’s the former, click that schedule button and let’s talk 💁🏾‍♀️🫟 I’ll be waiting here on the other side of your fears.